L O V E. Yes, I said it. I think I am ready to get back out there in the world and date. I mean, it has been almost 5 years since I have gone out on a freakin date. During the 5 years, I have tried online dating using Match.com, but I never connected with anyone. I would receive messages only full of compliments, but nothing stimulating that deserved a reply. I do enjoy companionship. I also love that I am a woman who can be alone, and not feel lonely, but still can recognize when I’m ready to open my mind, body, and soul to a person. The last relationship I was in was a very enlightening experience for me. I learned a lot about myself and it taught me what kind of woman I want to be to my next partner.
So trying to date in the city of Atlanta, Georgia where there are 80,000 more single women (ages 18-64) than single men, according to an analysis of census data, makes the odds even greater in finding an eligible bachelor. You would think in a city with over 5 million people living in the metropolitan area that there would have to be someone for me right? Well.. I have lived in this city for over 10 years and still feel like I live in a town with a population of 5,000.
I have to be honest with you all since we are more acquainted, there are a few factors that may have hindered my delay in meeting someone and dating, such as:
- I’m a homebody. I thoroughly enjoy being home with my dog. I have a pretty routine life. I go into the office a couple days for work, go the gym 4x a week, and go to Target and Publix. I will go out to brunch or dinner with a friend, but other than that, I am curled under my throw watching Netflix or reading an article. I do realize that prince charming is not going to come knocking at my door and that I am going to have to go out somewhere if I want to increase my chances of meeting a man.
- I’m not approachable (what one of my girlfriend’s says). To a degree, I agree, hence the reason why I added this factor. When my girlfriend and I go out, she says I always have a mean smug on my face that says “don’t even think about coming over here”. Depending on who the gentleman may be, I probably do wear that face because I genuinely don’t want him to come over. Based on my dating experiences with the guys that did approach me and because they were not intimidated by my facial expression, they ended up being the men I had most chemistry with.
- Timing is everything. The last relationship I was in lasted about 3 to 4 years. We had more good times than bad, but when it was bad, it was real bad. I have never been a “serial dater”. I don’t feel the need to get out of relationship, then immediately jump into another one. Like every other area in my life, I believe when it’s meant for you, it will present itself. Nothing can or will get in the way of what is yours. Just be patient and trust the process.
Even with all this said, in 2017 I am going work on being more open minded and open my heart to receive L O V E. I will keep you posted of course. Don’t put too much pressure on me.
What suggestions do you have for me to get excited about dating or places to go to meet quality men?
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